Relationships
Modern support for people-pleasers, perfectionists, and caretakers
Therapy for relationships in New York and New Jersey
You’ve been so busy taking care of everyone else that you’ve lost yourself in the process
Do you sometimes feel like you don’t deserve to have your needs met? Maybe no one has even asked you what your needs are. Your role is taking care of others. You may have done this since you were little. You pride yourself on being a good friend, partner, parent, or child. Any feelings or needs you have are stuffed down.
Maybe you have people in your life, but you still feel so alone. Or you struggle to connect with others. You constantly worry if people are upset with you. Or the thought of saying no causes your chest to tighten. You are always trying to meet the expectations and demands of others, even if it’s at the expense of your wellbeing.
But you still have that voice that tells you that you aren’t good enough. Or that you are not doing enough. So you try harder. And maybe you feel temporarily validated or reassured. But that feeling is fleeting.
Much of this work happens in individual therapy, where we focus on your experience within relationships, how you understand what’s happening, how you respond, and what feels possible for you. For many people, these patterns are tied to long-standing beliefs about needs, worth, and responsibility.
I also work with couples who want to explore these patterns and communication together.
Do you…
Wish there was someone who could take care of you? Who could meet your needs?
Constantly worry that you will be rejected, judged, or abandoned?
Wish you could lay your mask down and show others the real you? Maybe you don’t know who you are because you’ve spent your whole life pretending.
Feel like your self-worth is based on how others perceive you?
Worry you are a burden?
how i can help
You deserve relationships that feel more connected, less conflicted, and more supportive.
Therapy offers a space to explore what’s happening and what you want to change.
Here is some of the work we might do in therapy:
Look at your relationships and the patterns that keep showing up.
Clarify what you want and need in your relationships.
Explore how communication, conflict, and connection work for you.
Understand dynamics like people-pleasing, emotional distance, or repeating conflicts.
Learn ways to communicate more clearly, set boundaries, and handle disagreement.
Examine beliefs about guilt, self-worth, and shame, and strengthen self-trust.
Explore how past relationships or experiences continue to shape the present.
I’m here to help with any relationship that feels important or challenging in your life.
Romantic partners and former partners
Parents and siblings
Extended family
Coworkers and bosses
Friends
imagine if you…
Could talk about what’s hard without it turning into conflict or shutdown
Recognized patterns as they showed up and responded differently
Spent less time worrying about what people think about you
Felt more understood and less alone in your relationships
I want you to know:
Things Can Be Different
There’s room to understand what’s happening and decide what you want next.
There Is Another Way Forward
You have options when relationships feel hard, and you don’t have to figure them out alone.
faqs
Common questions about therapy for relationships
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No. Many of my clients come in to process friendship stress, family dynamics, or work relationships. Therapy helps you strengthen how you show up across the board.
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Of course! I believe that people-pleasing and caretaking can also be a form of emotional unavailability. If we don't let people see the real us, we won't get hurt.
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That’s really common. Change in one part of the system still impacts the whole system, so even if only one person is in therapy, things can shift. We’ll focus on what you can control and how to stay grounded when others aren’t ready to meet you there.
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Yes, I do offer couples therapy. When we work as a couple, the focus is on the dynamic between you, how communication, conflict, and connection are unfolding in real time, and how to shift those patterns together. My role isn’t to take sides or decide who’s right. It’s to help you both understand what’s happening underneath the surface and create more workable ways of relating.
In individual relationship work, the focus is on you, your experiences, the roles you tend to take on, and the choices available to you. Even when the other person isn’t in the room, this work can still have a meaningful impact on your relationships.
If you’re unsure which format makes the most sense, we can talk through that together.
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My role isn’t to give you answers. I’m here to remind you of the power in your own choice. My goal is to help you reconnect with your own wisdom and discernment. I’ll walk alongside you as you explore what’s healthy, what’s sustainable, and what aligns with who you are.
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Yes. Progress often looks like more awareness, more choice, and less reactivity. That’s how healing starts: by making small changes that stop repeating the same old story.